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Why You Should Always Challenge And Grow Yourself Instead Of Wishing For A Utopia (And How To Get Started)
Throughout our childhood, culture, and religions, we have been promised salvation and to “live happily ever after”. If we could just enter this paradise of no problems, everything would be fantastic.
But this is a mirage, a (quite destructive) illusion.
To prove my point, go to the most beautiful beach in the best weather you can ever think of. Spend a week there without your phone and see how bored you become just after a few minutes.
“What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.” //Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor
The real paradise has challenges, growth, and pain because that makes our lives worth living. Instead of avoiding these stressors (like fragile people), you want to incorporate them into your daily life. After all, they make you stronger, wiser, and personally antifragile, which is what you want anyway.
As the first principle of Total Living states: “You can either enjoy life right now or not at all”. Challenges are a feature, not a bug.
