How To Abolish The If-Then Mindset (The Root Cause Of Your Suffering)

If you are like 99% of people: you believe this:

If X (boyfriend/girlfriend, money, promotion, follower count, car, house, kids, goal reached, desired weight) happens, THEN I will be fulfilled and happy

There are multiple problems with it:

• You cannot feel truly happy right now because of this internal contract
• When you finally reach it, there is the next thing that must be chased after
• In addition, the celebration of the accomplishment feels underwhelming for the most part
• The hedonic treadmill effect will make you happy for a short time when upgrading and then quickly revert to your initial restless state.

You are chasing something non-existent while ignoring your current life. The future never comes but in the now. If you are not embracing the present moment enough, there is no joy.

This leads to the following dark (but liberating) truth:

You have two choices: Either enjoy life right now or never enjoy it

Imagine that you are chasing the tantalizing light in the distance while your path and place are grey and dark. This is what a life of non-enjoyment…